Missing the Canadian Sky
We have been home from Canada for a whole week. The jet-lag is gone but I feel as though I am recovering from a piece of unexpected and serious heart surgery and need to take it easy. In other words my heart is sore. In other words I’m missing the firstborn son and in other words I am missing all the cosseting and that sense of being looked after. But I suspect that there is something else also at play and that something is to do with landscape, with space and sky, even (gasps) the weather.
I can’t say that the little towns of Canada are beautiful, frankly they all bear a marked resemblance to trading estates with housing estates circling the perimeter. Nothing much is old in the way European towns are old. However, where my son lives I note the friendliness and the sense of community. I notice that the place is clean, no litter, and that there is a pride in civic spaces. But the thing about Canada which captivates is its landscape and that big sky. I know it isn’t always blue but when it is that blue goes on and on and is richer than any blue sky anywhere. I love the emptiness and the way it emphatically puts humanity in its place.
Here in Dorset it has rained all week. Thick, relentless pouring; my garden is like mud. I want to be in Canada again, take the long walk to the wonderful Found Bookshop, to have coffee there, to go and have brunch at Sunny Side Up. I want the cold. I want the sky.
So…a couple of Canada inspired poems for you today. The first one is about visiting Calgary and taking the elevator on the Tower. I wrote this after our first visit a couple of years ago. We were very jet-lagged and very country bumpkin about traffic!
Jet-Lagged In Calgary
Walk
don’t walk
lights blink
red -green- red
the road as wide as
an ocean
red -green -red
Too loud too busy
I am
afraid but
the green light
blinks
walk don’t
walk
don’t stop
We stumble into the lobby
the elevator reassures
its calm professional voice tells us
door closing, lift
going up.
it seems to know my heart is beating
crazy- fast after the business of
crossing the road
We go up right to the top of the tower
the doors open
the whole of Calgary the
Rocky Mountains and a vast blueness of sky
are waiting for us
Hi Canada says take a breath
The final poem is a mashup of experiences from this latest trip. Let me know if you like ‘em.
Siren Song
Ice on the Bow River
begins to bloom
delicate clusters
crystal
on the surface of
the water
they gather together
become a soft compact
light and opaque as lemon sorbet
solidifies slowly until
the river becomes still
seems to hold itself
in suspended animation
soon
after the days of clear skies
after the bone -splintering cold
of nights
the river sings
the ice moaning and popping
and humming
with the expansion
and contraction
of winter lungs
it cajoles calls us hints
that we might walk upon it
admire its transformation
underneath the beauty
that seeming stillness
the Bow River slow
sinuous
continues to flow



I hear something wrenching at your heart Beth and I'm trying to read it more deeply. Your are experiencing a profound loss and that feeling comes across so strongly. Loss and grief are bedfellows.
You have been torn away from a love that is stronger than anything else in your life. And I hear that 'I don't want to be here any more' feeling. I'm reminded of a quote from Helen MacDonald on loss (though here it is grief, the death of her father), where she likens that loss to fog; that nothing is clear, that you don't recognize anything any more...you just have to sit it out and wait for that fog to lift.
I hear that you are feeling vulnerable and lost, that something tangible and intangible around you has been taken from you. It is still winter, yet it is also February. The snowdrops are out and the crocuses are appearing. It's the small things we need to look for and hold onto. Spring is coming; life is returning.
Your son, his family, health and situation are good and life-affirming. You can be oh so thankful for that. ❤️